HYPNOTHERAPY FOR
ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS

by
 Dr. Trudie Bartholomew, Ph.D
CMA, B.Msc, M.Msc, Msc.D, C.Ht, D.D. (USA),D.Emed,D.EMed (Psych)
Doctor of Metaphysical Science (USA)
Doctor of Divinity : Pastoral Counselling Psychology (USA)
Certified Hypnotherapiist  (IMDHA – USA)

Ethnomedicine Practitioner
Ethnomedicine Practitioner (Psych)

Traditional Herbal Practitioner
Member of the Pastoral Psychology Institute (USA)

Committee Member -Accreditation Committee of EPASA – Ethnomedicine Practitioners Association of S.A.
President of the Free Templer Ministry (FTM)
Vice-President of the International Medical & Dental Hypnotherapy Association: South Africa Chapter

We may ask ourselves why some people are in abusive relationships, while others never seem to be abused, and can set their boundaries and seemingly be respected and appreciated by their spouse, employer, children and others?

When a person visits my consulting and their main problem is anxiety/depression caused by abusive relationships, I know that there was a problem at the time of the fetus in the mother’s womb. Usually I find that the father had an affair with another woman while the mother was pregnant with the child, now as an adult, suffering the result of the pregnant mother’s abuse.

While under Hypnosis, specifically in the Somnambulistic state, we take the patient back to childhood (age regression), and particularly to a period where the mother was approximately six months pregnant. If the patient is visual, they can not only see what the fingers, toes, etc look like inside the womb, but also what is happening outside. They can tell us what the mother is wearing, who are with her; describe the surroundings, emotions and circumstances. The fascinating part is that we can ask God/the Inner Wisdom/Subconscious Mind/Soul to show us a time (but only if it is the Honest Truth!), when the father was with another woman while the mother was pregnant. I would like to caution practitioners not to give the patient ideas or leading questions, but simply ask them to tell you what is happening.

It is important to understand that not all patients/clients are visual. Some are Auditory (taking information in by listening), Kinaesthetic (more the ‘feeling’ type of person, while others are Digital (or Auditory-Digital), the ones who have a lot of inner-talking, analyzing everything. They will of course not ‘see’ things, but may ‘feel’ or simply ‘know’.

Why does the father’s infidelity cause the pattern of abuse for the fetus in later life? The fetus sees or knows about the affair with the other woman, but can of course not tell the mother. The event is so emotional and traumatic, that it creates the ISE (Initial Sensitizing Event), which is usually not recallable by the conscious mind. Because the subconscious mind is the ‘goal achiever’, it will make sure that this goal is achieved, the goal being ‘Abuse’.

How is it possible that the fetus can see or know what the father did, as it is physically inside the mother’s womb?. We are a soul living in a physical body, but we also have other spiritual bodies, which are very much identical to the physical body, but made of a much lighter type of atom. Most human beings can use the Astral Body and the lower Mental Body, while some have the Higher Mental Body developed. Very few people have Spiritual Bodies finer and higher than the Higher Mental Body developed.

Thus part of the consciousness of the fetus can travel in the Astral or Mental body (the same thing sometimes happens when we dream), and observe what is going on outside the womb. All impressions and perceptions during the foetal stages are formed from events occurring in the direct environment around it.

During a typical consultation the patient will discuss his/her abusive relationships and the consequences on his/her emotions and physical health with me. During age regression, the client will usually have an abreaction (an outburst of emotion), and go directly to the latest event of physical/emotional/mental abuse. Although we have empathy, and let them experience this for a while, we do not do any therapy or counselling at this stage, as we know that this is not the ISE (initial event causing the problem). They may go further back in time where a similar emotion was experienced (usually related to abuse), until we reach the event which caused the abuse, usually in the womb, or infant stage.

It is not only women who are abused. Many men are abused by women, and continually choose the same type of person, until the cause of abuse is found and corrected. It must be emphasized that it does not simply help to take the person back in time and read a script or give suggestions. This is ‘band-aid’ hypnosis, and will not have a lasting effect.  They have to re-live the experience (sometimes 2-3 times during the same session), until it has no more emotional impact.

There is another fascinating part of age-regression which I discovered many years ago, and have been using very effectively for a long time. It is possible to take the client back in time, often with the suggestion of ‘lifting you on a cloud’, to go and see what happened in the abuser’s life (in this case the father – or even the mother of the fetus), that caused him to react in a certain way. We usually find that the father/mother went through a similar event as a fetus, infant or younger child. You may let the client ‘feel’ the parent’s emotion experienced during his childhood trauma. This is usually sufficient to allow the client to forgive the parent.

We usually take the person further back in time to the first time that he/she saw the parents long before conception while still in spirit form, and ask questions like ‘why did you choose to be their child?’, etc.

We then take them back to the time when the ‘contract’ was made with their parents for this life. The patient/client and parents (sometimes only one of the parents), often the grandparents and a spiritual figure, seen as Jesus, an Angel or a light are present during this written or verbal agreement. The person is usually permitted to see and understand why he chose to be their child, and what the lessons were to be learned, or things to overcome. Although not always permitted, we can understand our ‘purpose’ for this life, unless we are not ready for this knowledge.

Another reason why a person can be in abusive relationships, will be when the parents were physically/mentally abusive during the foetal or infant years. This creates a certain perception and programming, and once again the goal of the subconscious mind is abuse. So, do not assume that everybody who is in abusive relationships had parents who had affairs! There could also be a past-life event causing the problem.

It is most important to remember that you cannot let the patient leave your consulting room with this new knowledge without helping him to understand why it happened, facilitating the process until he can truly forgive all parties involved.

Once this is achieved, we will take the patient forward in childhood and adulthood, to go through abusive events, but now the impact of the past events are not nearly as emotional as experienced before eliminating the initial sensitizing event. These events are called SSE’s (Subsequent Sensitizing Events), and should no longer occur once the ISE (cause) is properly treated.

It is important to change the perception implanted in the mind of the fetus; we could call this re-programming, as the mind will always use the latest information first. Should you try and do re-programming and positive suggestions without eliminating the cause, it will only have a temporary effect, and soon the patient will fall back into old patterns.

The time spent to find the cause of the problem, re-living the experience, facilitating the forgiveness process, bringing a deeper understanding of the spiritual lessons involved, effect the necessary re-programming, assisting the client to channel the energy in more effective ways, is worth it! Never rush the session or stop in the middle of it.

There is a lot of help in the unseen world of love, truth and light. I often send up a prayer when I don’t know what to do next, and believe me, it does happen to everyone, even if we have been practicing for many years! God never fails us, and the prayer and request is usually answered, just by knowing where to take the patient next!

We may call it intuition?

Copyright © Dr. Trudie Bartholomew 2008

Your passion and how it is perceived by others Michael Christopher
michael@guitarinstructorsguild.com
www.guitarinstructorsguild.com The first {~step~thing} I had to take was to{~ figure out~decide what was/is }, and take my passion and {~whatever~my} talent and then start branding it; all while continuing to teach lessons: For us, that passion is playing and writing on my guitar. The first step of course is to get students/customers. Without a good customer base you {~won’t~will not} get recognition, followed, talked about, and importantly, make any money. Here is the formula: STUDENTS=DOLLARS It is not rocket science.
I soon began to {~understand~realize} that if I took my passion (music, guitar, and teaching others), and combine it with good business decisions and a good business {~plan~model}, I would attract those customers that are drawn to what I have to offer; they are even willing to pay top dollar for my skill and expertise. This is when I started to realize the power, personal freedom, and happiness. It is only then that a person starts to really live when they do what makes them happy all the while helping others along the way. This should perhaps be the mission statement of each of us as {~instructor’s~teachers}. If we {~in fact~really} love what we do and {~enjoy~love} helping others, then not only will we have impact on the world around us, our businesses and relationships will grow and prosper. Who do you give your business to if given the choice? The person whom you have no relationship with; just another employee serving you or the person who interacts with you and shows genuine concern for you and your needs? Here it is again, not rocket science, Good customer/personal relationships=good business=good relationships=growing business=growing $$$ Do not misunderstand me, it is not about how much money I can {~make~get}, it is about how many relationships I can create so that my business will grow and {~prosper~be successful}. What is my business? People and playing guitar. It is {~important~crucial} for any business to market themselves to attract customers. How will you do it? Why does anyone go into business in the first place? Personal satisfaction? Personal freedom? To make money? To leave a legacy? To develope relationships and a customer base? Just because?
These are all valid I suppose, but as{~instructor’s~teachers} we must reflect and decide our reasons for doing what we do because believe it or not it will have impact on our students and others around us; {~thus~therefore} affecting our business and growth. Hate what you do? You better believe that everyone around you knows you are unhappy because you are. {~Love~Enjoy} what you do? How then can you not be infectious to those around you ? Drawing them in because you have a joy, passion, and happiness for what we are doing. We must consider these things in my opinion if we are to teach, and guide others. As instructors, regardless of field, is that not why we want to instruct? Michael Christopher Christopher
www.guitarinstructorsguild.com
michael@guitarinstructorsguild.com

Learning English online can be a very economical and effective way to learn the language. There are numerous websites and software programs that can help you use the computer to learn English. However, you could be wasting your money if you do not find an online English school that has the right properties to help you succeed.

Focuses on Immersion

One feature to look for as you look for a place to learn English online is a focus on immersion. The online teacher should speak in English at all times, using visuals to help you understand what you are hearing. Whenever possible, conversations about schoolwork should be held in English. The site itself should contain a significant amount of English text. The more you are exposed to the language, the better you will learn it, so an immersion approach is essential.

Taught by Real Native Speakers

The best English school is one that is taught by native English speakers. Just because you are learning online doesn’t mean that you cannot be taught by a native English speaker. In fact, this is something you should look for when looking for a program to use. If there is no main teacher, make sure that the program includes recordings or videos of native English speakers. This will help you learn proper pronunciation of the words you are studying. This feature is particularly important if you do not have native speakers near you that you can speak with.

Allows You to Hear the Language

You will not learn English if you do not hear the language being spoken. Even an online English lesson needs to include some listening exercises. You should be able to listen to a variety of conversations, and they should be conducted by expert English speakers. You cannot learn the language well through text-based English lessons alone. You must hear it being spoken.

Look for Accountability

If you are going to pay your hard earned money for an online English school, you need to make sure that you will finish the program being able to speak English. Look for a program that keeps you accountable, because you will find there are times when you do not want to work on your lessons.

You need to be logging on regularly, daily if possible, to work on your English lessons. You also need to be assigned activities like conversing with a native speaker or listening to a book on tape that is read in English. These types of assignments will help you learn the language much quicker. Without accountability of some sort, you are likely to slack in your attempt to learn the language, and you will end up wasting your money on the course because you will not follow through with what is required.

Look for a Grammar Component

While immersion is the best way to learn a language, and you should choose an online English school that immerses you in the language as much as possible, you also need to learn the science behind English. Make sure you choose an English school that will teach you grammar rules. Yes, English has many rules and many exceptions to those rules, but if you do not know the grammar rules, you are going to struggle to learn the language.

Allows You to Speak the Language

Another important part of learning a language is learning to speak it. The best English schools will give you the chance to practice the pronunciation of the language you are trying to learn. This will require a microphone and voice recording capability on your computer, but if you have this, try to find a language school that will let you practice speaking the language and give you feedback on your pronunciation.

Homework help can be a daunting experience, especially for those parents that have been out of school for years. Use these tips to make the process easier while helping your child to understand the concepts that have been taught that day at school.

1. Provide a quiet place for the child to study and review the concepts that have been learned that day. This could be a time after dinner when the table is clear or any another designated study area within the home or the bedroom.

2. Keep track of assignments. The more you are involved in the child’s school schedule, the more the child is going to consult about it with you. Remember when assignments are due, when assignments need to be started and when any tests or quizzes occur within the classroom.

3. Help children with basic skills including math skills like addition, subtraction, multiplication and division. These basic skills are required for any further math concepts to become developed throughout their academic career.

4. Use everyday situations to help your child learn math, English and scientific principals. This will ensure the child will realise the importance of the lessons that are being taught while reinforcing the information that has been covered in the classroom setting. Repetition ensures that the child will retain the information.

5. Use worksheets, computer software and educational games to further develop and practice the concepts that have been taught within the school. Using the skills learned on a daily basis will help to solidify the lesson within the child’s brain.

And finally, don’t be afraid to seek professional tutoring help if you’re in over your head or if your child is simply struggling too much.  Tutor Match has thousands of Math tutors, English tutors, and Science tutors available either in your neighborhood or offering tutoring services online.

SUNY (State University of New York) Cobleskill is located in Cobleskill, New York. The college is a four public college that enrolls about 2,500 students and is located about 40 minutes southwest of Albany. The college offers several Equine Studies Programs and currently has about 75 students who are pursuing an equine related degree. Students can earn either an Associate’s or Bachelor’s degree in a very intimate setting at the Equestrian Center. The Associate’s and Bachelor’s degrees will prepare students for a number of different careers that include:

Horse Farm Management

Thoroughbred Management

Breeding Farm Manager

Riding Instructor

Equine Agribusiness

Entrepreneurship

Performance Horse Training

Equine Studies Teacher / Professor

Trainer

Therapeutic Riding Instructor

Equine Show/Event Manager

Stable Manager

Exercise Physiologist

Equine Researcher

Finance

Sales

Bloodstock Agent

Exercise Rider

Jockey

Farrier

Feed Company Representative

The Equestrian Center has many wonderful features that will enhance student’s learning. The center has new state of the art stables, indoor riding arena, multiple outdoor arenas, and miles of pastures and trails. The facility also offers many services like training, breeding, lessons, clinics, camps, and the center allows for students to have hands on experiences in the operation of a major equine business and facility.

Once a student has completed their bachelor’s degree, they will be prepared to move on to graduate studies in areas like horse behavior, nutrition, physiology, veterinary science or education. If a student chooses not to pursue a graduate degree, the bachelor and associate degree programs will prepare the student for immediate success in any equine related field.

The college offers a Bachelor of Technology in Animal Science Equine Advisement Track and is designed to offer students with the opportunity to develop advanced skills in areas of equine science, competition, and business management. This program will offer the student the opportunity to expand and build on previous background experiences and to increase their knowledge and skills that are necessary to effectively perform in a wide variety of equine related fields. Some of the courses that are included in this program are:

Equine Behavior

Advanced Equine Reproduction

Equine Exercise Physiology

Therapeutic Riding Instruction

Advance Riding Techniques

Parasitology

The Bachelor of Technology in Agricultural Business with and Equine Business Management Advisement Track concentrates on all of the business management aspects of the equine industry. This is a broad based program that provides flexibility so that each student can design their own unique educational experience and still receive the knowledge that they need to ensure that they will be able to reach their long term career goals. Some of the courses that are included in this degree program are:

Equine Farm Analysis

Financial Management

Marketing

Agricultural Economics

Farm Appraisal

Environmental Issues in Agriculture

Students who do not wish to pursue a bachelor’s degree can choose to pursue one of the associate’s degrees that the college offers. The Associate in Applied Science in Equine Studies will provide the students with the opportunity to learn about equine health, equine behavior, training, breeding, nutrition, and forage management.

There are additional courses that the students may choose from that includes dressage and jumping, tackless training, reining, driving, eventing, and conventional and therapeutic riding instructor courses.

Student who are pursuing an associate’s degree are highly encouraged to select a specific field of study from one of the four fields that the college offers. The students can choose to specialize in Horse Farm Management, Performance Horse Training, Therapeutic Riding, and Thoroughbred Management.

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